Covenants and vows

   Been given today to do alot of reflecting on this issue. In gathering as a community, should we make vows to stick to that community, to commit to other people, is it appropriate? According to the Lord and Master of all things as recorded in scripture: "it is better to make no vows" (when speaking about swearing by the Father or anything under heaven). "For we do not know what tomorrow will bring". We are but human. We are not in charge of our fate or our destiny. We do not know what tomorrow holds.
   When questioned about whose wife a woman would be after having been married to seven brothers, Yahushua's reply was "those destined for the ressurrection are neither to be married nor given in marriage". We are not to make contracts, I am given, "because you belong to Me". God has covenanted for me (paid the price for my freedom). No agreements unless God agrees.
     I often wondered about marriage. made the vow before ever knowing I was meant to be destined for Eternity. Until his death, I am under the law of my husband. That is easy because his "law" says "When it comes to Rachel (his 'wife') don't even go there" and "stay away from me". He chose to be dishonest and unfaithful, setting me free and taking upon himself any guilt for any sin I might be committing in his absence.
     I do wonder about a friend whose wife moved her boyfriend in. My friend left. His law says "I will tolerate no competition", I guess. her sin is on her in this instance. "Does that leave my friend now free to be with other women?", I wonder. Or is he bound to be faithful to his commitment until his or her untimely death? Does he justly punish her by being with other women?
     When Isreal failed to fulfill her part of the covenant, God vowed to take another "woman" who would be faithful while declaring He never gave Isreal a certificate of divorcing. He would claim His rights over Isreal as 'wife' AND have another....a bride for His son, actually. One He has chosen and trained since her beggining. You make a vow, you pay a vow, Isreal will be faithful, He would see to it, as her husband. The other is to provoke her to jealousy.