Link Between Abusive, Oppressive and Addictive Personalities

       This is an extension prompted by my investigating the rabbit hole of money, sex, health, etc. Toxic love, or more appropriately; attachment, is expressed in oppression, control, abuse and addiction (abuse of one's self by means of abusing the use of material things, and states of being consensual or not). 

     It all begins with the rather convincing (violent or passive aggressive conditioning, ignorance and fear) that our perceived needs can only be met by things outside of ourselves. 

    Comfort to physical and emotional pain comes from a tittie or bottle. We are ingrained with "needing" to ingest certain foods, substances to be healthy, which are constantly changing, causing fear and stress. We over apply in frustration or believe we deprive from the same or lack of availability. 

    Strict religions, cultures, society, peer groups, etc teach right and wrong sexual expression when the energy increase is experienced in that part of the body; what is healthy or not healthy, cool, acceptable. We aren't taught other creative ways to move that energy. We experience frustration, aggravation, insecurity and self hatred in association with it.

    We are conditioned in regards to emotions similarly. We find ourselves helpless in experiencing them around people overwhelmed by their own and stunting our cognitive abilities, interfering with our thought processes. 

    All of this is disempowering. We turn to "approved" (by us and/or others) "providers". Over givers and substances, states of being (spiritual escapism/meditation, etc) become over used and unable to help us attain the feelings we seek that they once triggered within us and so we abuse them; like kicking a dead dog. They're eager to please and always available, thanks to the law of attraction. 

     So, here we all are with angry inner children we've long since repressed into apparent silence "adulting" our way through life, demanding, blaming, conditioning, being conditional, feeling entitled based on whatever conditions we were conditioned to meet in order to get what we now perceive we need. We have the aggressive power players or passive-aggressive powerless players. All abusing self and others. (Except in the case of the truly powerless, physically and mentally, of course).

   How is powerless passive-aggressive? Because somewhere deep down, that inner child is screaming at things outside of themselves; "You told me I had to get from outside myself and I had to do it this way, so give me what I need, already!!". 

    It's becoming more commonly known that the sense of security we seek doesn't come from a gun, an insurance policy, etc. It comes from within. Happiness, as well, is an inside job. Same with love, joy, freedom or any other feeling/sense of. These outside things may introduce us to/trigger previously unexperienced feelings, however the feelings ultimately come from within and things outside of us are not responsible for them, unless our belief in them goes unchallenged. 

     We know this to be true when we are able to change our perception of things. We experience the truth of it when we change our beliefs about things. We can begin to experience the truth of that when we experience the desired feelings/sense of something with other things outside of ourselves than what initially triggered or satisfied. 

    Now, I go from here too far for most, as I am aided by the Law of Attraction, because my desire for the utmost freedom from abuse led me where I am about to take you, should you choose to continue. Others for whom it is too far; the Law of Attraction will deliver enough evidence to the contrary to assuage your inability to believe what I am about to share. Have no fear; I shall produce no further argument against you and you are safe in your own beliefs. You are free to stop reading at any point. 

      I haven't yet run into anyone who doesn't breathe. It's a nice feeling and has yet to be corrupted, that I am aware of (other than smoking, fear of pollution or just plain fear cinching our air intake and manifesting as allergies, etc). I have "cured" my own allergies and COPD by following guidence about associated emotions triggered by outside irritations and memories, conscious and unconscious/subconscious.

     Eating was intended to be another sense/sensual experience we have of physical life on earth, not to be dependent upon. Saying otherwise won't cut mustard with breathairians, who have been scientifically proven. I even experienced a taste of it (Look! A pun! 😁) for a time following practiced guidence, but was too dependent upon cigarettes and coffee in the end. I needed food to dilute the coffee and water to dilute the nicotine so I had some sort of balance in my physical being from my perception of how my body felt. Eventually I will make it back there; to that state of being. I've enough changing on my plate at the moment and will continue nursing from momma Earth until my perceived neediness relaxes. No shame to my game😉 I continue to be receptive to supportive media such as "The Ringing Cedars of Russia" book series. Anastasia's experience of life very much mirrors what I experienced as a child left to my own devices for the most part when not in school. A sincerely precious unintended gift of parental neglect, as it would be perceived nowadays but was a typical childhood of my latchkey, "It's 10:00P.M., do you know where your child is?" generation. 

Anticlimactic ending. Hmm 🤔

Oh! Return to point of dissertation; over use, perceived dependency upon, imbalanced relationship with anything outside of ourselves creates toxicity. We ARE creators, always creating something, after all 😉