Are we "tire kickers"?

     

     "Tire kickers" is the term used to denote energy vampires who feed off spiritual advisers, life coaches, psychics, self help gurus, etc. Basically a business term for those who take the feel good feeling from what's offered for free and go right back to their state of being. It's like popping a pill for them. They get high for a few minutes. They may also be among those who simply want an excuse or justification for what they're feeling. They don't want to change their perspective, they just love the "empowering" memes like; "You don't need to change so you fit into the world, the world needs to change to fit you". They take it to mean it's everyone else with the problem; there's no self reflection or self development to consider. Granted, there's plenty of dysfunction in the world. It's the goal to be vibrantly abundant regardless. It really means when we embrace ourselves, the world embraces us as well.  We aren't here to change the world, we're here to embody the change we want to see in the world. To be the change is to become that which we DO want to see in the world. That means focusing on what we do see that we want to be and see more of. Being the change doesn't mean going vigilante or forming a political party to create penal laws.
    Tire kickers take all the freebies and never actually purchase anything. They devour the free readings, blog contents, memes, free groups, Facebook posts, YouTube videos, go to church on Sunday, etc, while never investing or giving donations. This is different than those who use them to truly help themselves, gain greater awareness, apply, change and join the greater circles of humankind.
     The providers send out tons of energy to the point of depletion with no return to sustain them. A personal healthy boundary would be avoiding unhealthy business practices that feed the vampires. Of course they love our presence. Of course they appreciate the 'help' and 'guidance'. Omnivores and carnivores express delight in their meals. They use the kill to feed themselves as well as feeding themselves with their own energy of heightened response. "What's mine is mine and what's yours is mine" just like every abusive control freak and narcissist out there. They'll feed off any emotional energy; they're not picky. Justification for their anger; they feed off other's anger. Pity they can devour because they're full of it themselves already. Sympathy ("oh, yes, send me those good vibes, I'll inhale them, come down to my level, join your energy to mine so I can draw all yours in") passion (wooo that stuff is good), the expansive energy that comes with enlightenment of realization within an aspect of ourselves and/or our reality (that will disconnect us from ourselves and provide spiritual escapism). They won't go out of their way for it, either.
    They don't truly value our abundance. If we are ready to embody value, cherishing and all those precious, adoring qualities, we'll want to set healthy personal boundaries even in our business practices. That doesn't mean we need disclude donations and gifting all-together. We love to give treats to our neighbors. The sincere rising stars ARE out there. A hand-out to them IS the hand up perfect for them in that moment, a part of their gaining momentum for which they'll be sincerely appreciative and value as much as we value ourselves. They're worth spreading our generosity to. We can do it lovingly with discernment, which is different than judgement. To discern someone else's personality qualities and it's limits is to love them. To employ healthy for us boundaries is to honor what they're choosing to embody, consciously or subconsciously. Also, a healthy boundary held firmly may be the exact wake-up call they need or example for which they were seeking. The healthy business practices of one is a gift to both "you and to me".