You are not my savings account, sister

      It is the practice of some in relationships who do not provide adequately for themselves outside of the moment resources come in to give/share those resources generously with those they are in a relationship. They will come into relationship with another who has less of an appetite for what they do or one who may be more frugal in their budgeting. Those with less resource management skills will give generously to the one they are in a relationship with because they know they can hit them up later for it. Their relationships are their saving's accounts. The one more accustomed to playing the role of savings account, usually a victim of domestic violence as well, expects to have to give back what they have been given under the guise of "sharing". Sharing, in my experience, is more along the lines of gifting. "I have enough to portion some for you without shorting myself. I give it to you free and clear, unconditional. Partake now or save it for later; it is yours to do with as you will". When one gives something, it is no longer under the governance or guardianship of the giver. The receiver is free to do with it whatever they see fit. Law of nature. The invisible strings of less skilled relationship orientation are illusions, nonbinding, and unnatural in any environment other than one of fear and control. Giving generously to others before one's self is an act by one without healthy boundaries or resource management skills. The emotional manipulations involved with establishing those strings can be very abusive. "I gave you something and now you owe me. Relationships are give and take. What's mine is mine and what's yours is mine". That is not intimacy. Intimacy is "Into me see". It is not the complete absence of boundaries, complete rights relinquishing, savings account creating. The relinquishing of boundaries, relinquishing of rights and establishing of a savings account by giving of one's resources is not generosity; it's imprisonment. Believing it is O.K. is social conditioning. 
So, please; do not offer back to me anything I have given.