"We only want what's best for you" clarity boom & maiden, mother, crone roles in it.

So, yeah, it came right on schedule as promised. As usual, it all begins with the youngest inner childhood experiences. Thus, it is disjointed. That's normal and to be expected.
      We begin life pure love and in pure love nothing not good for us exists. The concept does not exist. We're feeling good and we hear "No! That's bad for you!". We're not resonating with the shear terror or disgust that comes with it. We rebel against the "No". We simply cannot believe it. It's just GOT to be a joke.  We get offended at being the butt of a joke. We get angry at "No". "What's best, my ass!"
    Life gives us a few more experiences that trigger resonance with shear terror and disgust (such as "What's best, my ass!" it's self). We feel the unpleasant feelings and don't like them. We know the motivation is purely selfish; the one telling us no is doing it to alleviate their own feelings of fear and disgust. We reach the point of just wanting to believe in their motives so we don't have to feel the judgement of them being liars. So, we lie to ourselves and build up confidence that going along with their warnings will save us from all the discomfort. That never works. We've enabled their fear to govern, it will then gain momentum and snowball into governing everything it can. A child's life begins with a litany of "no"s. We hear "we only want what's best for you" in every one of those 'no's and our responding "Like hell you do" while feeling the discordant emotions that go with them.
     As a parent, I could hear myself. I laughed at how ridiculous it was; days devoted to one after another "No, don't do that. No, don't do that. No, that's gross. NOOOO! You almost got killed. You're gonna put an eye with that. You're gonna choke.". Yes, I hear the "But it's true" defense. That was accompanied by the removal of one thing after another; from the child's reach or the child it's self from situations. That means "No" and "We only want what's best" is associated with the taking away of things, the taking away of freedom, of exploration, of learning for one's self. Yes, I hear the "But it's the only way...necessary". It's not how I wanted to spend my days. It's not the message I wanted to send my children. We want lives with the experience of "Yes!". That's a good feeling life.
    Now as an adult, I don't want to correct those who say they want what's best for us. They're just like their parents; seeking to relieve discomforts within themselves. I humored them so I wasn't calling them liars and hurting their feelings. Most are at the end of their ropes with uncomfortable feelings. Out of sympathy, I didn't want to add the feeling that would be the straw that broke the camel's back. Out of self protection, I didn't want to be the last straw that caused the snap and slap back. people at the edge of their emotional capacities can be dangerous.
   I've also proven to myself that no; it's not true in every case that the same thing will hurt me as it did somebody else. Ya'll are suffering "5th monkey syndrome". We create our realities. I've seen too many miracles to believe otherwise. I've also proven to myself that no, it isn't always the only way or necessary. There's always a third option. I'm a third option person. I've proven to myself that life CAN be an ecstatic "Yes! Yes! Yes!" for ourselves and our children.
    So, it's time for me to get over it.

I realize after writing this that the Maiden (child) is truth. Too innocent to lie or be confused, the child knows the truth in all things. It's disjointed to us because in a child, it is all simultaneous and happening so quickly, the child's mind may not grasp it all. It is the most subtle etheric scent that cannot be held or grasped. The Mother gathers them all and sews them together (creates coherency) into a patchwork quilt. Things begin to make sense. She can cover herself in these truths. They're made into something functional and useful in serving her as well as others. "ah, there's a patch for that!". The Crone adds clarity, confluence. The quilt becomes a fluid, versatile movement of truth throughout the entire body, every aspect of one's self and life experience. It is fluid with the ease of familiarity and grace of accepted understanding, void of conflict with contrast, aware and accepting of paradoxes. Together, She's amazing!